When Ego Lends To Your Demise

Kathy Romero for Preston Bailey.

Kathy Romero for Preston Bailey.
Dear Readers,

I consider myself super lucky. I’ve been working with the best of the best in the wedding industry and I’ve been able to put together some truly spectacular creative teams. However, at times I’m a bit disappointed to find that when I look at the heart of some of the most talented vendors, I am blinded by their egos.  Speaking candidly; I am floored with how some people choose to operate.

I’d like to think there is a certain level of self respect that is required to do your best job for your clients and to be the best person and professional you can be, but one being good does not make them right all of the time. We must also be mindful that, in a professional sense, we can all be replaced. To have an abundance of experience is a blessing and a gift. Yes, it can serve as a great strength, but if one is not careful, they can rest on their laurels and the accolades of yore, allowing it to manifest into your greatest weakness.

I have no time for ego on the job or in life.  I believe that we are all human beings and we all want to do our best work and we all have something to offer, regardless of your title or how much press you have gotten.  One of my biggest pet peeves is when I hire a very brilliant vendor that attaches a gigantic ego to talent that can stand on its own.  I always find myself disappointed, to be honest.

This always reminds me of what Abraham Lincoln once said, “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.”  When someone is rude or above something, I always want to say, “Get over yourself. Roll up your sleeves and get it done”.  Let’s face it; this is the service industry and we need to understand that even if a request from a client seems absurd, it is important to them, and that’s what should matter most to us.

I say this with humility to all in the industry: Even if you consider yourself “la crème del la crème”, consider how your behavior will work for or against you maintaining that reputation.  Will your ego turn people off, push them away or have them whispering at industry events or will you impress everyone with your dedication to your craft and desire to leave a legacy of mentorship, talent and respect?

Today, I would like to ask you how you work to keep your own ego in check, and also how you feel about working with those who throw theirs around?

With a Happy Heart,


Kathy Romero is the Director of Event Planning for Preston Bailey Designs. She shares her thoughts and advice on Preston’s Blog every Thursday.

(Photo Courtesy of  Matthew from CLY Creations)