I have been in this business for the past fifteen years and I still love what I do, but I have lost my passion. I work for a boss who really doesn’t seem to value me and while my clients love what I do, I feel so stressed and anxious most of the time that I cannot even enjoy it. I feel like my boss is secretly unhappy with me and everyone around me is moving forward and up while I sit here, stuck. I don’t know if it’s where I am or who I am at this point. I just feel like I have lost my creative drive and passion.
I just want to take you for a walk and tell you to take a deep breath. Not only is what you are feeling normal, it’s an important sign that it’s time to make some changes. The first one needs to be in your perception of things. Why, Burned, are you focusing on your boss’s perceived devaluations instead of your client’s joys? And is your boss truly devaluing you or are you “reading into things” as they say?I can tell you from experience that bosses tend not to keep their dissatisfaction a secret from employees. Most want to give clear and candid feedback to empower their employees to making changes that will benefit them, the team and the company.They also tend to be focused on many things at once which means they can’t always give each employee their full attention and the daily accolades that some people need as motivation.
The next thing I want to ask you is when was the last time you did something to spark your creativity? Have you tried something new? When was the last time you walked in nature, listened to a new style of music, bought a ticket to the theatre or popped into an art museum? How have you tried to ignite your passion? When was the last time you did something to bring you a sense of joy and inspiration? Most of us are in a very unique position in that we get to do what we love for a living. That, in and of itself, is a blessing. What we must not forget is that this does not mean that we will walk around giddy and excited (or even inspired) every day. Life is about balance, Burned, and there can be no great moments without gray ones.
I encourage you to stop giving up on yourself and giving in to a not-so-great period. Instead, acknowledge this discomfort and start taking action in the ways you can. Ask your boss for feedback. Show gratitude for your client’s kind words by taking them in and start doing things for yourself that focus on self-care and expansion. Whether that’s reading books like The Artist’s Way (which I love), meditating or even seeing a professional to learn how to manage stress and anxiety, don’t forget that you have many, many options and have much more control over your happiness, success and energy than you realize. I see that you are from New York which means you are just about to enter into the spring season. A perfect time for a rebirth of sorts, no?
Readers: Have you ever felt like this? What is your best advice for Burned?
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