Note: This is republished post. Live blogging will begin again on January 8, 2015. Happy holidays and a very happy New Year to you all.
Lately, I have found myself giving a lot of advice on the topic of dealing with situations that occur to us in our everyday life. I think much of it stems from the fact that juggling a planning career, life, and mommy-hood leave me experiencing a lot of these everyday situations firsthand.
One of the questions I constantly get is, “How do you do it?”, and mainly, “How do you stay so happy and do what you do with a positive attitude?” A dear industry friend of mine pointed something out that really made me think. She said, “People often say, ‘Happiness is a choice’”, and of course, I’m guilty of this. She then proceeded to point out that not many people have the innate ability to “choose” and that, perhaps, I should explain my sentiments.
Her comment really got me thinking. So today, my friends, I would like to share a little secret. Every action I take has been envisioned first. I create my own reality and understand that only I have the ability to make choices that will ultimately shape my life and that of those around me.
This world is always going to be full of ups-and-downs. As such, there will be times when situations leave us disappointed even if we try very hard not to be. So, here are a few ways I have stayed grounded and held onto happiness in spite of them.
Having a Vision Is Everything. It will provide you with a standard that allows you to stay true to who you are. That initial mental picture will guide you through interactions with clients, marriage/relationships, children, friends, and family. In other words, no matter what the situation is or how difficult things get, see yourself where you’d like to end up. This helps tremendously even if in the end you are not quite where you wanted to be. Doing this makes the journey a lot easier.
Do Things From An Intentional State of Mind. Be responsible. Identify all possible outcomes and how they will make you feel. Embrace the things that make you happy and negate the ones that don’t. Have the discipline and the strength to mold your reality.
Identify Where You Want To Be Without Forgetting To Acknowledge Where You Are. After all, being real is an important piece of the happiness puzzle. Don’t forget to accept the good along with the bad, and never be too proud to change the things that keep you from moving forward. Push through it with all your might.
Be Selective About The Thoughts And Even Images That You Allow In Your Life. If possible stay away from things that represent darkness, sadness, or restlessness. Instead, seek light, joy, and stillness. Please pay attention to how you react at all times to positive and negative situations as they both affect you in different ways.
Learn To Take Control Of The Circumstances Before They Take Control Over You. This of course is easier said than done, but not at all impossible. Keep in mind that this does not only apply to toxic interactions. It’s also important to not let positive interactions make us feel invincible. If there is something that this industry teaches us, it’s humility. And if you are not humble enough to take the time to interact with intent, you run the risk of fading away like a bridal trend.
With a Happy Heart,
Kathy Romero is the Vice President and The Head of Global Wedding & Event Planning for Preston Bailey Designs. She shares her thoughts and advice on Preston’s Blog every Thursday.
(Photo Courtesy of John Labbe)