The Upside of Challenges



Dear Readers:

I was recently enjoying a casual conversation with a colleague when suddenly her smile faded and she stopped mid-sentence.  “I’m sorry,” she said.  “I have had such a tough week and it seems to have caught up with me right in this moment.”

I understood completely.

As industry professionals–and human beings–I am sure you know that life is full of good and bad days. This means that there weeks that will leave you inspired and ready to take on the world, and others that will challenge you onto your knees.  Though I prefer the inspiring ones, I have had to learn to embrace both. As nerve wrecking as it may be, the challenging weeks are the ones that put our abilities and our patience to the test, regardless of what field we are in.

Luckily, these trying times also have an upside.  We often emerge like gold after the fire with our craft and perspective polished.  It’s often a good thing, even when it doesn’t feel like it. This goes for planners and folks in all industries when you really think about it.

With this in mind, I would like to share the lessons I learned and was reminded of this week:

Remember, It’s All Business: Allow yourself the time to think things through and to find possible solutions wherever necessary. If you are faced with difficult brides, clients, or situations, please take a moment to take your emotions out of the equation. Don’t make it personal matter when it doesn’t need to be. It rarely needs to be.

Don’t Give Too Much. I’m a big giver and truly believe in giving 110% all the time. However, there can be times when our desire to please gets in the way of setting boundaries.  Avoid putting yourself in situations where you will feel powerless. Sometimes, when you give too much you lose control of the situation and it makes it hard to reel things back in.

There is Always a Solution. Even when the situation seems overwhelming and at times impossible know that there is always a solution. The solution may not be exactly your desired outcome but don’t be so hard on yourself that you are unable to see the progress before you.

Lastly, Conduct Business With an Open Heart. This is non-negotiable for me. I wholehearted believe that this will forever open doors!

With a Happy Heart,



Kathy Romero is the Vice President and Global Wedding & Event Planner for Preston Bailey Designs. She shares her thoughts and advice on Preston’s Blog every Thursday.