I’m pretty confident that if I took a poll, most of you would consider yourselves perfectionists. Recently, to my great surprise, a good friend accused me of been an extreme perfectionist. Being in the wedding and event industry means that we’re always aiming for that perfect evening — not only for our clients and brides but also for ourselves. We forget, however, that sometimes just being good really is good enough. The problem with being a perfectionist is that we spend a great deal of time and effort obsessing over details that ultimately make absolutely no difference in the grand scheme of things.
At the risk at ruffling a few “perfectionist” feathers, here’s my list of examples:
1. I’ve spent hours choosing the perfect shade of white flowers, wedding stationery and table linens for weddings and events. However, I’ve found that once the sun goes down, it makes very little difference. Dim lighting plays tricks on our eyes, and it all looks, more or less, the same.
2. Who decided that the wedding decor and the bridesmaids’ dresses should be the same color? When I have a dinner party, I don’t ask my guests to wear outfits that match the table centerpieces. At a wedding, the guests aren’t dressing with the decor in mind, so why should the bridesmaids?
3. As for the wedding and event stationery, yes, there’s beauty in consistency. But it’s also not the end of the world if every single ink color, calligraphy, and font are not exactly the same. In my opinion, most guests hardly notice these details. And, if they do, they might think it’s a good thing: I recently went to an event where the place cards, programs, menus and table numbers each had their own unique style. I definitely noticed, and I thought it was very cool. It was a great example of “thinking outside the box!”
4. I don’t know why, but most wedding and event venues have the most horrible carpet patterns. Have you noticed this? More than once, my clients have said to me, “I love this ballroom, but I hate the carpet.” Please remind your clients that when all of the beautiful tables are set up, guests will see very little of that ugly carpet.
I could go on, but you get the idea. The events we do are always about keeping our clients happy. At times, though, it helps if we have some perspective, especially when maybe our clients don’t. Good really can be good enough. You don’t have to drive yourself nuts over every little detail to create a fantastic event for your clients.
Be sure to check back tomorrow for a new post with my 10 list of the things that MUST be perfect at every event.
Now, a few questions for you: Are you a perfectionist? How do you handle a client who’s obsessed with perfection? Which elements of an event do you think DON’T have to be perfect? What’s your idea of perfection? Please share your thoughts!