There are moments in life that require huge doses of gracefulness. The older I get, the more I equate gracefulness with self-control. After all, it requires an incalculable amount of discipline to be gracious at all times. As I mentioned last week, we are humans and we live and learn with every decision that we make. As of late, I’ve noticed how a person’s demeanor towards you can skew the way you see yourself in that moment. For most, this could be extremely detrimental especially if there is a lack of self-esteem.
Today, I ask you to please pay attention to how you react at all times to positive and negative situations as they both affect you in different ways. Learn to take control of the circumstances before they take control over you. This, of course, is easier said than done (as I managed to breakdown several times this week) but not at all impossible. Keep in mind that this does not only apply to toxic interactions; it’s also important to not let positive interactions make us feel invincible. If there is something that this industry teaches us, it is humility and if you are not humble enough to take the time to interact with intent, you run the risk of fading away like a bridal trend.
For the past few days, I’ve had a roller-coaster of interactions. Whether they were positive or negative, I noticed one thing: they did not define me. They actually helped me make better decisions. This week taught me that there will always be an opportunity to be graceful. Whether it’s with a coworker, boss, with your children, with your clients, friends, and even strangers.
A few tips on adopting the art of being graceful:
Never respond before thinking things through.
Always insert kindness.
Take control of the outcome.
When in doubt, let it go.
Remember that confident people don’t take pleasure in bullying or mistreating others. Whatever you do, do not allow others to affect your being. As the fabulous Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
With a Happy Heart,
Kathy Romero is the Vice President and Global Wedding & Event Planner for Preston Bailey Designs. She shares her thoughts and advice on Preston’s Blog every Thursday.
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