Sharing your success with friends and family is one of the most amazing feelings ever. If you are like me, you get excited when one of the industry folks achieves new heights in their careers, even if you are only acquaintances. If it’s a friend, there’s no question you are right there to pop that champagne! If we are currently setting higher standards and raising the bar, there’s no other way to go except up. This only means there’s room for us to grow and the pie is big enough for all.
A few years ago, I had a dear friend (I even thought we were best friends) with whom I enjoyed years of friendship. I was saddened to see such a special relationship come to an abrupt and inexplicable end. Ironically enough, things changed when my business was taking off and things started to happen for me. Was that a coincidence? I don’t know and perhaps will never know. What I can tell you is that there is a fine line between friendship and business. As a professional, you have to learn to look beyond that and as an individual, you have to prepare yourself for these unfortunate moments. One thing is for sure that we must never mix one with the other.
A few tips that got me through it:
1. Don’t blame yourself. All relationships are a two way street. If it isn’t, then the love was not real.
2. Whatever you do, don’t dwell. Don’t waste valuable energy trying to figure it out.
3. Keep in mind that not everything is meant to be. If it were, it would have lasted.
4. Don’t ever dim your light out of fear of losing friends.
5. Don’t hold a grudge. Move on.
When this happens, it is important to remember that the problem lies deeper than what you can resolve. Instead, continue to push through and embrace what’s ahead. If you are good at what you do, you will continue to rise to the occasion and your career will flourish. The key is not to have many friends but instead to have real ones. I’m a firm believer that friends and love do not have to be chased – they just happen.
With a Happy Heart,
Kathy Romero is the Director of Wedding Planning For Preston Bailey Designs. She shares her thoughts and advice on Preston’s Blog every Thursday.
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