Dear Preston: My Potential Clients Are Prejudice


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Dear Preston,

I think I am one of the best designers in my area. However, many of my potential clients seems to prefer working with male designers. I will even go so far as to say that they prefer gay, male designers. I have no issue with gay men, but it’s frustrating that I seem to be losing clients because I’m neither gay nor male. I don’t know what to do.


White, Straight, Female and Talented

Dear WSFT,

You’re suggesting that the wedding and event planning industry is a gay man’s world? And you’re asking me, a black gay male designer why clients prefer gay male designers over straight female ones?

I’m either the best person to answer your question or the worst. I’m not sure which. But I’ll try.

Frankly, I think your question is coming from a place of weakness. If you were as talented as you claim, you wouldn’t be asking this question. I’m sorry to be so blunt, but that’s the truth. And my answer for you is very simple: Become more talented.

We live in a prejudice society, and there’s no way around that fact. That’s just the way it is. So forget about your gender and your sexuality, because you can’t change either. Instead, concentrate on being a creative and original artist; talent will always open doors.

I love what the great Albert Einstein said about prejudice: “It is harder to crack a prejudice than an atom.” Keep creating, keep getting better, and the clients will come.

Good luck.


Dear Readers, do you agree with WSFT that the wedding and event industry is a gay man’s world? Do you think you got your last job because of your gender? How would you have answered WSFT? Please share your thoughts in the comments. Thank you!

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