Dear Preston: I Am In A Bad Place and Need Your Help


Dear Preston

Dear Preston:

I cannot seem to let go of my past failures and it’s causing me to stay stuck in a moment.  The truth is, I have a real problem. I  get lost for many hours watching stupid TV and drinking.  I want to move forward, but the truth is, I don’t know how.  Have you ever felt “stuck” and if so, how did you motivate yourself to move forward?

Stuck in a Rut


Dear Stuck:

First, I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you that everything is going to be OK.  The thing is, what I say is of less importance than what you believe. In the end, it’s up to your own personal faith to become unstuck.

Years ago, I was at the lowest point in my life. I owed millions of dollars and felt that everything was falling apart. My escape was always drugs and alcohol.  Then, one day, everything changed. Now, I know I risk sounding as though I am preaching by sharing this, but this change was initiated by my decision to get down on my knees and pray.  My prayer was simple. “Dear God, I cannot do this alone. I need your help. Please give me the wisdom and strength to be the best I can possibly be.”  I truly believe this prayer helped me rid myself of my drug and alcohol addiction. It also helped me to discover things about myself that I never knew or dreamed were possible.

Overcoming something so serious will likely not be easy, but it can be done, and it starts with a decision to accept that you want to change and need help to do it.  I still get stuck sometimes. I also find myself watching hours of stupid television as an escape, but these days, I hold with me an uncorruptable blind faith that everything will be just fine, regardless.  I think my decision to forgive myself my “failures” and see them for their truest nature, as lessons, helped me tremendously. As an artist, one of the most challenging things to do is to go easy on ourselves.

In addition, I have acquired a more positive addiction.  When I am stuck, instead of reaching for a drink, I escape to the gym for a few hours. This always makes me feel more centered.  Stuck, I don’t have all of the answers for you, but it sounds to me as though you are in pain.  I will pray that you simply go easy on yourself and ask for the help you need while knowing you are being guided.

Dear Readers: It is important that this person feels that they are not alone.  Would you please advise how you deal with difficult times? How do you motivate yourself to move forward?




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