Dear Preston: How Do I Convince My MIL You’re The Right Designer for My Wedding?


Dear Preston,

My fiancé and I are getting married next spring, and I absolutely love your work. Unfortunately, my future mother in law is not on board. She has another designer in mind and claims his work is more elegant. I showed her your portfolio on your website, and she liked it a lot. But, she’s still unconvinced. Can you give me the right words to convince her?

How should I describe your work?


A bride and a fan

Dear Bride,

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. It is your wedding, right? Not your mother in law’s?  Sorry. That was me getting a bit fresh. But I had to ask. Obviously you value your mother in law’s opinion, and you should.

But if your mother in law has already decided on a planner, I’m not sure there’s anything I can say to change her mind. That’s not to say I won’t try…

Tell her that my number one priority is always to create a one-of-a-kind wedding. Tell her that I try to create a space that is so visually stimulating, guests don’t want to leave. Tell her that guests never forget my events. Explain to her that elegance can also be extremely dramatic.

And if none of that works, ask her if she would be willing to come to my office and meet me. Maybe I can give her a bit of the good ol’ Bailey charm!  Either way, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for thinking of me, and I wish you lots of love and happiness on your wedding day and there after.

Dear Readers, has this ever happened to you? Have you ever had to convince a bride’s mother, sister, fiancé or other family member that you were the one for the job? How did you pull it off? Please share.

And to answer yesterday’s question: The first time I became aware of and worked with a planner in New York City was not until 1986!

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