Reminder: You Can’t Please Everyone
March 9, 2011
Yesterday’s post was all about saying, “No.” In some ways, I’m sure that makes us feel a little squeamish.
We don’t like rejection, so why would we want to reject others? Ultimately, it comes down to one simple thing: you have to remember you can’t please everyone.
In doing that, you’ll be more comfortable with being authentically you and remembering what you stand for. It’s easy to get caught up with what you think you “should” do or be. It’s easy to compare yourself to others and think what you are isn’t good enough.
When you feel that way, read these quotes I refer to whenever I’m feeling the same:
“I don’t wish to be everything to everyone, but I would like to be something to someone.” — Javan
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” –Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.
“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.
“I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts.
“I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me.
“If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.
“I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.” –Virginia Satir
“No accurate thinker will judge another person by that which the other person’s enemies say about him.” –Napoleon Hill
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”–A.A. Milne
What do you think? Are you a “pleaser”? When did you learn that you couldn’t kill yourself pleasing everyone?