My Best Frenemy Is Copying My Wedding!
February 26, 2016
I have a problem. My best friend is also getting married and seems to be copying my wedding ideas. I have tried to address this with her, but she flat-out refuses to admit that her blatant plagiarism is anything but coincidental. I confessed to her that I wanted a beautiful fall wedding with touches of gold and was shocked when we received news she was planning her big day (complete with my color scheme) that same month! We’re now getting married in October to accommodate mutual friend’s schedules. She then went to my caterer and planner and even asked me for a peek at my dress before she went dress shopping! I refused, claiming it was a secret from everyone. I don’t know what to do. Please help!
First of all, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I should also congratulate you on having good taste. Your friend clearly sees that you have an eye, not only for design, but for planning. She’s looking to you to help her fill the gaps in her own sense of inspiration and confidence. While no one enjoys being ripped off, there are two ways to look at it: You can be angry and allow it to ruin your wedding day or you can see it as flattery and do a better job at keeping those secrets you really don’t feel like sharing.
As a guest at her wedding, you will now enjoy decor you love, food you hand-selected and know that you’ve helped her to experience the best day of her life. You’ll then marry the man you love at the wedding of your dreams one month later and have a little extra time to do all sorts of things she will only wish she had thought (or heard) about.
It sounds to me like you have a wonderful wedding ahead of you; just don’t tell her where you’re honeymooning or you may have adjoining villas.
Readers: What would you do in this situation?