Looking Back at 40 With 20/20 Vision
June 26, 2014
This week marks yet another milestone in my life. Tomorrow I turn 40! I knew I would write a post about it, but to be totally honest, I didn’t know what words would come to me when I sat down to write this.
Today, I am reflecting on the many people and moments in my life (good and bad) that have made my existence undeniably remarkable. I’m ready to share some of the pearls I’ve picked up along the way:
I’ve learned that there is power in honesty: It’s imperative that your feelings, interactions, and even your thoughts, come from a place of authenticity. Doing the right thing is paramount no matter how difficult it is (and it often is).
I’ve learned, and unequivocally acknowledge, that my children, husband, and family will always be the most important part of my life. Each one of them tugs at my heart with their distinctive personalities.
I’ve learned to do for others, regardless of what I receive in return. Giving without expectation is in equal parts both liberating and challenging, but worth it none-the-less.
I’ve learned to speak, walk in, and embrace my truth. The moment I realized who I was and what I stood for, I danced (literally). Every fiber in my body connected at that “a-ha” moment and I embraced my reality. I was able to feel my life as opposed to just existing in it.
I’ve learned not to chase things, people, or status. For all things are ephemeral, and while they may make you happy today, tomorrow your priorities will inevitably shift and so will the things that you run after. The essence of who you are can never be chased; it’s retrieved from within.
I’ve learned that no matter how many good friends I have, my mother is my number-one gal. She is the eternal keeper of my secrets and the nurturer of my soul. No matter how different we are, I am hers by design.
I’ve learned that letting go is hard, but that holding on is harder. Period.
I’ve learned to stop longing for a father who does not know how to be one. I finally understand that his absence is part of my blueprint. I am who I am in part due to his early abandonment.
I’ve learned that rejection is not the end. It’s the beginning of a new story, a new goal, or a new direction. Rejection is an instant eye-opener. If you pay attention it might be a more powerful tool than acceptance.
I’ve learned that it’s not too late to love. People enter our lives at different stages, and earlier doesn’t always mean better or truer. If you feel love for someone, then show it, no matter when they made an appearance.
I’ve learned to live! I thank God and all the incredible energy in the universe that has conspired for me to be part of this remarkable journey called life. At 40 I know for sure that the best is yet to come!
With a Happy Heart,
Kathy Romero is the Vice President and Global Wedding & Event Planner for Preston Bailey Designs. She shares her thoughts and advice on Preston’s Blog every Thursday.
(Photo Courtesy of Sanaw Ledrod)