HOW TO LET GO OF A BAD BUSINESS EXPERIENCE
June 22, 2011
If you’re in the wedding and event business, you’ve likely had a few difficult clients. More often than not, you’ll connect with your clients in a deep and profound way. Occasionally, though, you’ll find yourself with a client who seems impossible to please.
I once did a job that was so frustrating, it made me question whether or not I wanted to continue designing. Because the thing is, even though most people only think about the gorgeous final project, the real work of this business is all of the schlepping and planning in the months and weeks leading up to the big day.
For today’s reminder, I want to remind us all how to stay inspired. We need to find ways to let go of the bad stuff, remain focused on the job at hand and keep moving forward.
1. After that horrible job, I went through a phrase of telling all of my friends and family about what had happened. I loved playing the victim. I repeated over and over again how I had been done wrong. But you know what? All I was doing was keeping the drama alive. I was only making it worse for myself. Not to mention everyone around me who was tired of hearing about my drama!
Now, when something bad happens to me in this business, I write it down, and then I let it go.
2. I’ve also made a habit of asking myself a very simple question every time something unpleasant happens. What can I take away from this experience? I promise you really can find something positive in every situation. Maybe it’s a little thing: do you need to reassess how you manage your clients’ expectations? That seems small, but it can make a big difference!
3. Always remember that it takes two to tango. Make a list of the things you could have done differently. And yes, it’s perfectly acceptable if one thing you could have done differently is followed your gut and NOT accepted a job with a client you suspected was going to be a challenge.
I firmly believe that replaying an unfortunate incident over and over in your head will only harm you in the long run. Not only is it demoralizing, but it can distract you from your work. The quicker you learn to let go, the quicker you can get back to doing your best work. After all, you’re an artist! You need to be keep your mind free of negative energy.
Readers, do you think you have the courage to turn down a job because your gut is telling you something is off? What’s your strategy for letting go of bad experiences? Please share.