How Do I Avoid Becoming Overwhelmed With Wedding Planning?
May 5, 2016
I am about to start planning my wedding and I wondered if you had any advice on how to stay sane. I have seen too many friends and loved ones fall into one panic attack after another. Thank you in advance for any advice.
Dear New Bride:
Congratulations on your engagement! I loved your email because I wish more brides and grooms would step into the process with their eyes open like this. Too often I see wonderful couples deal with situations they shouldn’t have to while planning their special day. Here is my general advice for you:
Remember that this is your day. There’s a good chance you have well-intended loved ones who will want to share their tips, traditions and desires with her regarding everything from her personal style choices to dates, times of the wedding. While you want to be considerate of your guests, I encourage you to make decisions based on what you and your partner want and feel is best and understand that most brides have some pushback. It doesn’t mean you need to bend to every whim.
Do not be tied down by trends. Find your inspiration everywhere, and if you want a winter wedding in spring, by all means, go for it! If you want to wear pink instead of white or anything else, do it.
Hire a good planner. A lot of brides ask me, “Do I really need a planner?” and my answer is yes. Not only will a planner help to guide you through the planning and wedding process, but he or she will likely have access to vendors and possible discounts you would not get otherwise.
One step at a time. The wedding industry is huge, and while it’s exciting to have access to so many options, it can also be overwhelming when you don’t have a plan. Sit down and think about your budget, your three main desires and what you want your wedding to look and feel like, and then move from there.
Keep things in perspective. Yes, planning a wedding can be fun, exciting, stressful–you name it. But I encourage you to remember that this is a celebration of your love and partnership with someone you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. Lean on one another and remember what’s really important.
In closing, I want to wish you a beautiful planning process, wedding and marriage. It is my hope that this is a fun and memorable time for you and your partner in the most positive ways possible.
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