Finding Balance Takes Focus
October 16, 2014
I am writing to you in the middle of an incredibly, yet extremely challenging week. We are quite busy this season with some exciting new projects, weddings and events. Not to mention, I have been traveling non-stop these days.
While this makes me feel exceptionally productive career-wise, I feel like I have less and less control of my personal and family time. To say this doesn’t make me feel good would be an understatement, but it also forces me to adjust my focus and to try even harder to find the balance work and family require. I am very fortunate to have the partner I have. He appreciates my passion and drive, supports my career and gently reminds me when I am burning the candle at both ends. Ironically, he sent me an interesting article in the archives of the Atlantic, “Why Women Still Can’t Have it All”.
I would like to think we can, but I realize that we often take on more and more as each day passes, thus we create this ever-present pressure that we are running behind-the-clock while chasing the carrot. I am a go-getter and somewhat of an overachiever and anyone who is around me for more than a few moments knows that I am a high-energy soul who likes to connect with and give to those around me. These are traits that I really value in myself and others, but when we are giving, giving, giving our all, all of the time, we can often find that there’s not a lot to give at the end of the day, intentions be damned.
It’s with this in mind, that I would like to mention a few things that I intended to do in order to not only keep the sanity in the beautiful chaos of a life in full swing, but also really connect with those I love the most. It is my hope that you other mom’s, dad’s and partner’s may find a bit of refuge in them as well.
Disconnect from Social Media: It’s a fallacy that if it didn’t post, it didn’t happen.
Put Down The Phone: You all know how hard this will be.
Allow Myself Not to Respond To Non-Urgent Emails: How many of us are caught in the loop of treating emails like Family-Feud buttons?
Focus on Doing an Activity With My Family: A great way to bond while making sure everyone is focused on the moment being shared.
Unplug: It’s really the only way to center ourselves, isn’t it?
I would like to challenge all of you to spend at least one day this weekend doing all of the above. Who is up for it?
With a Happy Heart,