Dear Preston: My Boyfriend Won’t Propose
January 17, 2012
I’m a planner, and I love what I do. I also live with my boyfriend. We’ve been together eight years, and he’s my best friend. He is very supportive, and I love him. I know he feels the same way. And yet he won’t propose. I’m afraid that if I give him an ultimatum, he’ll leave. I know that marriages can fail; a lot of the weddings I’ve done over the last few years have already resulted in divorces. But I don’t care. I still want to marry him. My friends say I have to give him an ultimatum. But I’m afraid. What should I do?
Always a Planner Never a Bride
I think it’s time you did some soul searching: do you truly believe in the commitment and importance of marriage? Or, are you just being pressured by your friends? After all, the commitment of marriage is not for everyone. You need to have a a serious heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel. Find out why he “refuses” to propose. He may be trying to save up for a ring. Or maybe he wants to get a little farther in his career before you marry and start a family. There are many reasons he may be hesitating that have nothing to do with you. You owe it to him and yourself to find out what those reasons might be. If he really is as supportive and loving as you say, he’ll be open and honest with you about his reservations. Good luck.
Dear Readers, what do you think this planner should do? Have you ever been in a similar situation?