Dear Preston: I’ve Been Betrayed By My Best Friend and Business Partner
November 22, 2011
I’m a florist, and I’ve been fortunate enough to develop a strong business. Three years ago I was so busy that I hired my best friend to manage my business, and she rapidly became indispensable. She helped me expand beyond personal celebrations like weddings and birthdays to corporate benefits and galas.
Then I found out she was having an affair with my boyfriend. I confronted her and fired her. But because she handled most of the business for my corporate clients, she was able to convince three of my biggest accounts to leave with her. Preston, I am so furious I haven’t slept in weeks. What should I do?
If I were you, I’d be sleeping pretty well knowing that I got rid of such a back-stabbing friend. Of course, there are always two sides to every story… but still. This “friend” sounds like she was really your enemy. And by her actions, I suspect she’s either very angry at you or very jealous of you. Perhaps both. Betrayal is an incredibly painful experience, and I’m sorry you have to go through this. But, please, rest assure that you will be better off in the long run.
Years ago, when I hadn’t been a florist for very long, two of my assistants decided to leave and open their own flower business. They took a few of my clients with them. At the time, I was so upset and very hurt. But guess what? They didn’t make it very long. Today, their business is long gone, and I’m reminded of the old saying, “God does not like ugly.”
My advice to you is to channel your anger into your business. Now is the time to work extra hard. Remember, you were successful before you hired your friend. You don’t need her. And while you might not want to hear this now, the best way to address your anger is to forgive this woman and move on with your life and your business.
Dear Readers, what do you think? What advice would you give? Please share.