DEAR PRESTON: HOW DO YOU LIVE WITH YOURSELF? ANSWERED!
June 1, 2011
Thank you for all of your insightful and kind responses to the letter I posted last Tuesday; I was touched by your encouragement and heartfelt reaction. Your comments made it abundantly clear that most of you appreciate the work that designers and other artists create. Because that’s what we all are: artists. Designers, planners, bakers, photographers, DJ’s, and everyone else in the wedding and event planning industry are artists. We create beauty, and we make people happy.
I’ve thought long and hard about the questions Poor and Confident posed to me. I think what upsets me the most is that the letter was hurtful not only to me but also to all of my clients. Sometimes we forget that one negative comment can initiate a train wreck of hurt feelings and misunderstandings.
Dear Poor and Confident,
While I understand the issues you are attempting to address, I wish you could have phrased your words differently. Calling my work “empty and soulless” feels like a low blow, but I acknowledge that everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion.
However, your words were also hurtful to my clients. You appear to assume that throwing parties and weddings is selfish. I disagree. Regardless of how much money someone has and how lavish or not so lavish an event is, entertaining is a gift. My clients want to give the gift of a magical night and take care of their guests, and they come to me because they know I will make it happen.
I may not have a high school diploma but through hard work, determination and God’s blessing, I have found a place for the talents God did give me. And that place is right here in the wedding and event industry.
So to answer your question, I have absolutely no problem living very well with myself. Every day I wake up and do what I love. My job feels less like work and a whole lot more like play. And you know what’s even better? I help a lot of people feed their families. My team, my vendors and all of the wonderful crews we hire for each wedding and event, support their loved ones because my clients want to entertain their guests and I want to help them.
I hope that my answer has given you another perspective and a greater appreciation for the work that everyone in the wedding and event planning industry does.
LATER TODAY: One of my wonderful clients read Poor and Confident’s letter and was not a bit happy at all. Please check back this afternoon to read her thoughts on this issue.